I'm sick of being pregnant! Is something wrong with me?
Nope, it's perfectly normal to feel that way. Many women get tired of being pregnant during the third trimester (and some even earlier). What's exciting and new during the first few weeks and months of pregnancy can become pretty tedious by the sixth or seventh month.
Let's face it, there's nothing particularly thrilling about having to roll out of bed sideways, groan every time you stand up, and pee umpteen times a day. Sure, you may get offered a seat on the train, but you also face little delights like stretch marks and heartburn. It's enough to wipe the rosy glow from even the most excited mom-to-be.
However, if your pregnancy blahs start to feel more like persistent blues or anxiety that's affecting your ability to function, talk to your healthcare provider. Although mood swings are common in pregnancy (especially among women who suffer from PMS), feeling chronically bored and listless could be a symptom of depression.
Postpartum depression gets more media attention, but at least 10 percent of women have bouts of depression during pregnancy. Untreated depression isn't good for you, so it's important to get treatment. Fortunately, most cases of pregnancy-related depression can be treated by a supportive therapist and with antidepressant medication if necessary.
Dealing with others
On top of your physical discomfort, you may find yourself enduring endless questions and comments from others about your pregnancy. "Once I started showing, no one at work ever talked to me about anything but being pregnant," recalls Susan Greer, an accountant and mother of one from New Hampshire. "By the sixth month, I wanted that baby out and my body and identity back."
And then there are the unsolicited comments on your physique. "I'm always getting 'Wow, you are so big!' comments, advice I didn't ask for, and people touching my stomach," a mom-to-be writes in the our site Community. "As if I'm not already annoyed because of how uncomfortable I am!"
Many women get tired of conversation that focuses on their growing body. Try steering conversation back to non-pregnancy topics – even if it's just the weather or the latest reality TV show. Feel free to tell your family and close friends that you feel like talking about things that have nothing to do with food cravings and not being able to see your feet.
Also, give yourself permission to vent when you feel the need. When family and friends (or even life partners) need a break from pregnancy talk, you can count on finding a sympathetic ear in other moms-to-be. Commiserate and trade advice with other women due the same month as you in the our site Community.
A 3D animated look at a baby in the third trimester of pregnancy.
Savoring your time
Despite all the annoyances you're weathering, now's the time to enjoy your last weeks or months of pre-baby freedom. During the months – and years! – after your baby is born, time to yourself will be a precious commodity.
Some women use the days to plan for their newborn's arrival, setting up the nursery and shopping for supplies or mapping out the details of maternity leave and daycare. You might try putting together scrapbooks of your pregnancy and baby shower, taking a parenting class at your local health center, or learning lullabies.
Sometimes, though, you need a break from all things baby-related. Go ahead and plan activities, take on tasks, and dabble in hobbies that a new mom couldn't possibly squeeze into her busy schedule. Some ideas:
- Make lunch or phone dates with friends. "I figure I won't have a good in-depth conversation with most of my friends for at least six months after my twins are born," one woman writes in the our site Community.
- Learn something new. Take a chance on books at the library that you normally wouldn't pick up. "I started reading an astronomy book so I can learn some constellations. Who knows, maybe I'll talk to my baby about the stars during our midnight feedings," mom-to-be Barbara muses in the our site Community.
- Streamline your space. Clean out your files, sift through the junk in the kitchen drawer, or put those boxed-up prints in the closet into photo albums. There's plenty of organizing you can do around the house that won't strain you physically, and once you're in mom-mode you'll be thankful for the reduced clutter.
- Treat yourself to a massage. "I feel tons better after the prenatal massage I just got. If you feel miserable, go get one! It's well worth the money," Ceri writes in a our site Community post. For a less expensive treat, spring for a hair blowout or soothing pedicure instead.
- Set up shortcuts to save time – and your sanity. Collect takeout menus from restaurants around town, prepare freezer meals, and start your babysitter search so that help is readily available during the hectic first months.
- Try a new exercise routine. Physical activity is a sure way to boost your mood and energy. Recruit a friend to go for a walk, take a swim, check out a prenatal yoga class, or try another way to get your body moving. (Check in with your healthcare provider first, in case there's a medical reason for avoiding exercise.)
- Pick up gardening. "Starting a garden really helped me get over my third-trimester boredom," says New Hampshire mom Susan Greer. "I planted some seeds, but mostly transplanted young plants and trees – the idea of waiting for something else to grow over time was too much for me to take!"
- Connect with your partner. Enjoy some peaceful, romantic dinners together – whether you venture out to a restaurant or cozy up at home with comfort food – and focus on each other while you can.
- Escape to another world. Start a novel or watch TV shows and movies that transport you into another place or time.